Let's just go with the flow, shall we?
A spate of recent events left me feeling very jaded especially where affairs of the heart is concerned.
I always tell myself that I can all the same lead a very happy and fulfilling life without a man in my life. I tell myself that I can be even happier alone and enjoy every single perk that comes with being single...
Yes, I'm happy now. Yes, I'm all free to do all I want, all that I desire... but somehow, something's missing... I wonder if it's the repercussions of being in long-term relationships, one after another. I've never really given myself a break after my previous breakups to fully recover and mourn for the failed relationships.
I always efficiently get myself attached again within the next 3 mths & I noticed a pattern. With the exception of my first bf, all the other 3 became my bfs mainly because they were there for me during my lowest point after a breakup. They were the ones who spent time with me, did sweet things for me, talked to me till late into the night, brought me out to take my mind off things...
Perhaps, I took them as rebounds without realising it (and definitely without intent). That could be the reason why all of the previous relationships didn't really work... though 2 ended as a result of a 3rd party that my exes had, I can't help but think that probably, I subconsciously willed them to do so through my actions.
Because of this realisation, I stopped myself from dating new people after my recent breakup in August. I jus immersed myself in schoolwork, went out with gfs and came wkends, I simply just lazed around at home or spend time with my family.
I wanted to stop myself from repeating the same mistakes over and over and over again... It's time to learn.
Though now I have met this new guy, who seems to be really nice, whom I feel very comfortable with, whom I enjoy taking long walks with late at night... I tell myself that I shouldn't harbour expectations of any sort. Neither would I shut myself in and deny any feelings which may come along.
My good friend says he has this feeling that things would happen sooner or later... Well, if it was the me in the past, I would probably be feeling very light-headed, blissful and thinking that this person would be 'The One'... However, the me now just want to enjoy this process of getting to know someone without any expectations, without thinking of where this would lead us to...
I have been very blessed throughout this 23 yrs of existence... I'm always surrounded by people who sincerely care and only want the very best for me. What more can I ask for?
Dear friend, I understand your good intentions and I know you sincerely care for me and want nothing but the best for me... but well, let's not expect anything from this yeah... If things do work out, then let it be a pleasant little surprise... if not, then at least we wouldn't be disappointed and feel short-changed.
I always tell myself that I can all the same lead a very happy and fulfilling life without a man in my life. I tell myself that I can be even happier alone and enjoy every single perk that comes with being single...
Yes, I'm happy now. Yes, I'm all free to do all I want, all that I desire... but somehow, something's missing... I wonder if it's the repercussions of being in long-term relationships, one after another. I've never really given myself a break after my previous breakups to fully recover and mourn for the failed relationships.
I always efficiently get myself attached again within the next 3 mths & I noticed a pattern. With the exception of my first bf, all the other 3 became my bfs mainly because they were there for me during my lowest point after a breakup. They were the ones who spent time with me, did sweet things for me, talked to me till late into the night, brought me out to take my mind off things...
Perhaps, I took them as rebounds without realising it (and definitely without intent). That could be the reason why all of the previous relationships didn't really work... though 2 ended as a result of a 3rd party that my exes had, I can't help but think that probably, I subconsciously willed them to do so through my actions.
Because of this realisation, I stopped myself from dating new people after my recent breakup in August. I jus immersed myself in schoolwork, went out with gfs and came wkends, I simply just lazed around at home or spend time with my family.
I wanted to stop myself from repeating the same mistakes over and over and over again... It's time to learn.
Though now I have met this new guy, who seems to be really nice, whom I feel very comfortable with, whom I enjoy taking long walks with late at night... I tell myself that I shouldn't harbour expectations of any sort. Neither would I shut myself in and deny any feelings which may come along.
My good friend says he has this feeling that things would happen sooner or later... Well, if it was the me in the past, I would probably be feeling very light-headed, blissful and thinking that this person would be 'The One'... However, the me now just want to enjoy this process of getting to know someone without any expectations, without thinking of where this would lead us to...
I have been very blessed throughout this 23 yrs of existence... I'm always surrounded by people who sincerely care and only want the very best for me. What more can I ask for?
Dear friend, I understand your good intentions and I know you sincerely care for me and want nothing but the best for me... but well, let's not expect anything from this yeah... If things do work out, then let it be a pleasant little surprise... if not, then at least we wouldn't be disappointed and feel short-changed.
posted by paradox-is-me at 5:47 PM
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If it doesnt work out, you have 2 good friends instead of just one idiot friend! :)
Idiot friend
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