What drives people to fall in love?

"...romantic love is rooted in our earliest infantile experiences with intimacy, how we felt at the breast, our mother's face, these things of pure conflicted comfort that get engraved in our brain and that we ceaselessly try to recapture as adults. According to this theory, we love whom we love not so much because of the future we hope to build but because of the past we hope to reclaim. Love is reactive, not proactive, it arches us backward, which may be why a certain person just "feels right". Or "feels familiar". He or she is familiar. He or she has a certain look or smell or sound or touch that activates buried memories."

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"A woman unconciously uses orgasm as a way of deciding whether or not a man is good for her. If he's impatient and rough, and she doesn't have an orgasm, she may instinctively feel he's less likely to be a good husband and father. Scientists think the fickle female orgasm may have evolved to help women distinguish Mr. Right from Mr. Wrong."

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"..hypothesizes that we tend to see as attractive, and thereby choose as mates, people who look healthy. And health, say there evolutionary psychologists, is manifested in a woman with a 70 percent waist-to-hip ratio and men with rugged features that suggest a strong supply of testosterone in their blood..."

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You see, there's always a million and one reasons for everything. I never thought there was an explaination for love... & it's funny now there are actually people studying LOVE. Is there really one explaination for it? Reading the article is pretty much like reading my Economics School of Thoughts: The Keynesian Vs. The Classical...

If someone were to ask me why I fell in love with my boyfriend... I seriously do not have an answer to that question. Could it be because he gives me orgasms? Hahaha...hmm. I doubt he can answer that question too... Maybe 'cause I have like something in me which triggered the past which he hopes to reclaim? Or probably because I've a 70% waist-to-hip ratio? Who knows right?

I'm no scientist... My simple answer as to why people fall in love with each other is probably just a case of having all the right elements together at the right time and place. But I also believe that people fall out of love with each other along the way... what keeps them together is probably other more important factors which I shall not discuss here.

Probably that song is right... "only fools rush in"... Love is painful, it hurts and it breaks our hearts into a million pieces all the time... but why do we keep falling in love over & over again? Is it the thrill of the chase which excites us? Or maybe it's just lust?

Sighz... Maybe we should all stop being fools...

*The above excerpts in grey are from National Geographic Magazine, Feb '06 Issue*