Maybe? Maybe not...
What happens after expectations are not met? After one gets disappointed? Does it imply that one expected too much or does it mean that the other party did not put in enough effort?
I suppose respect is the most fundamental basis in ALL relationships...
What happens when one does not respect the other enough? Where do we carry on from there then?
In life, there'll always be unforseen circumstances, there'll always be situations where one has no way for predicting what's going to happen next... and that probably implies that plans would have to changed when that happens.
That's fine... that's perfectly fine. Change of plans, being unable to carry out per se what was decided on, having to see to something else more important first. That's all perfectly fine.
What's not okay is when one party tries so hard to disguise the fact that he/she couldn't make it... I guess in certain situations, honesty is really the best policy. If there's something you need to see to, then be open about it. It's no big deal. It wouldn't kill. That's afterall, better than trying to give all sorts of stupid excuses only to create an even bigger mess.
May I ask what's the point in only trying to be open and honest about things when the mess is already created? When things which should have been said were not said and things which should not have been said were said instead...
Maybe it's anger, maybe it's disappointment, maybe I just don't know what I want...
Maybe it's not as it seems afterall...
Maybe... Maybe not...
I suppose respect is the most fundamental basis in ALL relationships...
What happens when one does not respect the other enough? Where do we carry on from there then?
In life, there'll always be unforseen circumstances, there'll always be situations where one has no way for predicting what's going to happen next... and that probably implies that plans would have to changed when that happens.
That's fine... that's perfectly fine. Change of plans, being unable to carry out per se what was decided on, having to see to something else more important first. That's all perfectly fine.
What's not okay is when one party tries so hard to disguise the fact that he/she couldn't make it... I guess in certain situations, honesty is really the best policy. If there's something you need to see to, then be open about it. It's no big deal. It wouldn't kill. That's afterall, better than trying to give all sorts of stupid excuses only to create an even bigger mess.
May I ask what's the point in only trying to be open and honest about things when the mess is already created? When things which should have been said were not said and things which should not have been said were said instead...
Maybe it's anger, maybe it's disappointment, maybe I just don't know what I want...
Maybe it's not as it seems afterall...
Maybe... Maybe not...
posted by paradox-is-me at 1:30 AM
4 Comments:
Listen before you made any judgement. many a time, misunderstanding and miscommunication are the biggest destroyer of any relationship!
Maybe it's... So much for "Stay @ home & watch tv with your mum". Maybe it's just the way some people put things across that causes the misunderstanding... It makes you not want to listen to whatever else they have to say.
Anyhow, it's just rude to say things like that... How would you feel if you were showered, got dressed & all prepared, ready to go out...Looking forward to the whole thing & just there waiting for that one call. Then that someone calls and asks, "It's raining very heavily, how?" That's still not the worse... What's worse is when the other party then attempts to say something along the line of, "Watch tv with your mum then"...making you feel as if he's trying damn hard to make you not want to go out. Next thing you know, the person whom you were supposed to be out with, has a friend who's picking him up and heading somewhere for a drink.
Then like a protocol or out of goodwill, he asks you if you want to come along... So much for communication...And if it really is true, that this friend is upset, then wouldn't it be funny for another person to tag along?
It's really annoying...Maybe I'm kicking up a big fuss... Maybe I'm too judgemental... but then ask yourself how would you feel if you were in my shoes.
gal, i reckon he prolly tot he wud make u angry. no doubt he is digging a deeper hole for himself. but then again, i m sure he din mean it tt way. talk to him n let him noe how ya feel. the next time if he does it again, then there will be no excuses.
but this time round, let it rest yea? *hugs*
Yes dear, have already 'forgiven' him... Listen to you... =D
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