To share weal and woe...
Just spent time with a friend who fell out of love. Having just broke up with his gf he was all depressed and needed company. So, off we went, spending time with him.
Well, he's one of those people who believe in the importance of having someone special to share his life. To him, being single is a no-no. Not that he does not have friends, in fact, he has a huge social circle. However, he sees meaning in life only when there's someone there to share his ups and downs.
As always, humans are contradictory. When you do not have something, you long for it. Yet when you have it, you don't treasure it.
Although I'm a very independant girl (by my standards), I still yearn to have someone there for me. Yes, I have my friends and my family. But it's just different. The feeling of having someone you love in your life makes alot of difference. In a way, I agree with him... that there's no joy in lot of things when there's no one to share it with.
Don't get me wrong... when I say someone to share my life with, I don't mean having him all to myself 24/7 or spending lots of time together. To me, quality matters more than the quantity. You can spend every waking hours with someone but yet still feel like something's missing... On the other hand, you could meet someone say twice a week but the time spent together is so dynamic that you walk away feeling you know the person better each time and everytime, you fall in love with the person all over again. That's what matters, I think.
No one ever said it was easy... the greatest love is one that is able to overcome all obstacles. Where both parties are able to see the good side of any bad situation and blossom and grow together. Like what my love said, it's all about growing together... Yes, sometimes people outgrow each other... but I belive it's a matter of putting in effort and communicating...
I'm lucky that I've found someone whom I can grow with... and hopefully grow with for a very long time... but friends whom have not met such a person yet, do not despair. Your turn will come... Remember this: We meet a few wrong ones along the way so that we know when the right one comes along.
So, I really thank all those who were in my life at one point or another... cause without them, I wouldn't be so sure of what I want and I wouldn't know what I do not want either... See, there's always a good side to all things, even bad stuff... It's only a matter of perception , how you want to deal with it and how you work your way around the problem... isn't that what life is all about? To make mistakes, to learn from them and to grow and be a better person for yourself & your love ones...
Well, he's one of those people who believe in the importance of having someone special to share his life. To him, being single is a no-no. Not that he does not have friends, in fact, he has a huge social circle. However, he sees meaning in life only when there's someone there to share his ups and downs.
As always, humans are contradictory. When you do not have something, you long for it. Yet when you have it, you don't treasure it.
Although I'm a very independant girl (by my standards), I still yearn to have someone there for me. Yes, I have my friends and my family. But it's just different. The feeling of having someone you love in your life makes alot of difference. In a way, I agree with him... that there's no joy in lot of things when there's no one to share it with.
Don't get me wrong... when I say someone to share my life with, I don't mean having him all to myself 24/7 or spending lots of time together. To me, quality matters more than the quantity. You can spend every waking hours with someone but yet still feel like something's missing... On the other hand, you could meet someone say twice a week but the time spent together is so dynamic that you walk away feeling you know the person better each time and everytime, you fall in love with the person all over again. That's what matters, I think.
No one ever said it was easy... the greatest love is one that is able to overcome all obstacles. Where both parties are able to see the good side of any bad situation and blossom and grow together. Like what my love said, it's all about growing together... Yes, sometimes people outgrow each other... but I belive it's a matter of putting in effort and communicating...
I'm lucky that I've found someone whom I can grow with... and hopefully grow with for a very long time... but friends whom have not met such a person yet, do not despair. Your turn will come... Remember this: We meet a few wrong ones along the way so that we know when the right one comes along.
So, I really thank all those who were in my life at one point or another... cause without them, I wouldn't be so sure of what I want and I wouldn't know what I do not want either... See, there's always a good side to all things, even bad stuff... It's only a matter of perception , how you want to deal with it and how you work your way around the problem... isn't that what life is all about? To make mistakes, to learn from them and to grow and be a better person for yourself & your love ones...
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